Did you notice that the last word was plural?
There's a subtle, but important difference between it and the more common singular version.
Fear is a general feeling that's unspecified. Fears, on the other hand, are specific.
You could have a sudden, but inexplicable foreboding, and we'd classify that as fear; but you could also have a phobia for snakes, or heights, or poverty. Collectively, they would be fears. And that's what I want to talk about. How to face those specific fears.
Pain & pleasure
One of the basic drives in human beings is the desire to avoid pain and experience pleasure instead. But as Christian Mickelsen points out, if we do that all the time, then we'll only suppress our fear or fears. We'll never deal with them.
Suppressed fear never goes away. It festers. It emerges stronger and more mature later on, and then it's harder to control. So the time to face it is when it first arises.
In one sense, you deal with your fear or fears in a similar way. You look for an easy way to get rid of them, and usually that means by distracting yourself. You simply find something else to do.
What happens, however, is that you don't completely unhook yourself from the thing you fear. To understand this requires some deep thinking.
If you have an online business, or you're trying to create one, then it's likely that the thing you're afraid of is also online. It could be writing your daily email, or recording yourself, or having a Zoom call with someone in the hope that they'll buy your coaching.
The most effective distraction - that is, the one that's most likely to refresh you so that you can face that fear - is to get up from your desk and go for a walk, or to sit in your back yard and feel the sun on your face, or to run an errand because when you come back from that kind of break, you'll be in a different frame of mind than you were beforehand.
But that's probably not what you do. Instead, you wander around the Internet. And that prevents you from actually taking the break that you need; a break that will change your perspective.
All the while you're reading the news, checking your inbox, catching up in social media, or visiting other sites you're still feeling that fear. It may be less, but it's still there. And the reason that you still feel it is because fundamentally, there's no difference between using the Internet for work or using it for play.
Facing specific fears
There's another side to this, however, and that's how you deal with specific fears. The received wisdom is to face them head on; to "lean into them." If you're going to stretch yourself, then you're going to have to do things now that will enable you to grow, and they could cause some pain at the beginning.
Any sacrifice that you make for your own personal success or that of your spouse or kids, for example, means denying yourself of pleasure now and deliberately inflicting a degree of pain. But you tell yourself that it's worth it because of the increased pleasure you'll receive later.
But there's more to it than that.
Start with the stuff that's obvious. Every drawer will have things in it that are there simply because it was more convenient to toss them in it than put them away. This is the time to put them away.
Repeat this process until you have two stacks of things: The stuff that you intend to leave in the drawer, and the stuff that you really don't know what to do with, but which doesn't belong there.
The stuff that you really don't know what to do with will be a lot less than what was in the drawer when you started, and that's what happens when you isolate the one thing that you're most afraid of. In the case of the miscellaneous items from that drawer, you may be able to put them in a small bag, or jar, or box and simply store them somewhere else. Of course, it would be better if you could just throw them away or give them to someone.